New Chapter in Life
It has been a long long time since I last posted my philosophy in life and business, perhaps it is because everything has been busy busy busy that I did not have a philosophy so compelling enough to blog. Well, anyway this blog is still on philosophy but it is more of a chapter in life that I would like to blog it down as today mark a new beginning in my life and I would like to record this moment down.
Today I left my love in Hong Kong. When the path between 2 persons have split and seperation is a better choice, it is better to bite the bullet and let your rationality control your emotion. I prefered to leave my love behind and take away my rationality back to Singapore not because I have lost faith in the love, but rather to love is to let go and let the person be happy. Although it is sad and heart wrenching yet it is a decision that is relieving and uplifting. Oxymoron you might say, but isn't love about the oxymoron between happiness and sadness? Love is bitter sweat because the sadness to end exist because of the happiness that precedes before.
No matter how hard you try to salvage it, love is not an individual affair where effort from a person is enough. Like the heart where the right side of the heart pumps the blood to the lung to receive oxygen for the body, if the left side of the heart refuse to pump the blood to the body, vice versa, the constitution will still not receive the oxygen to allow it to live and will still die. We have to face that all things will have an end that it has to face, however it is choice that differentiate someone between happiness or sadness when confronted with the end. One can take it bitterly and hang on to the relationship which results in disappointment, sadness, seperation and fear to the other party. Or one can face the harsh reality and face the end with grace, letting the love go and giving both of the person the freedom to move on and be happy. Yes it is hard to face the facts but temporal sadness is better than a prolonged one that might even result to detest.
I chose to free both of us and be happy, choosing to end the temporal love that was beautiful while it last, so that an eternal friendship that is more uplifting can begin. Love is not about hogging someone but it is about giving the best to the one you love. Care and concern does not exist only between couples, sometimes deep friendship can provide more treasured care and concern than couples. Perhaps it is not a digression formula but rather an enhanced formula where I can care for her in other ways that is not imposing and with string attached.
For a love that was once beautiful, the happy moment should remain sweet in the memory bank and it shouldn't be a burden. I wept for today, it is the tears of sadness for the lost of a beautiful love and yet again the tear is also the tear of happiness as it is the beginning of an eternal friendship. Conflicting in emotion yet clarity in rationality. A promise to leave the love behind in Hong Kong, a final time to be sentimental for the relationship.
Towards the end of the flight, the emotion calms down. There is an emptiness in my heart that I have never felt in years. This emptiness can be explained by the fact that the person in my heart has left, it is a void as her image fades. It is perhaps a good thing as now there is space for some other people to filled up the empty space. Some people move on faster than others and I am probably the slower ones as 1 year plus after the relationship has frozen than am I able to confront it and move on. At least the flip side of it shows that I was devoted to the relationship and doesn't give up easily on what I treasured. Leaving it does not mean that I do not treasure it anymore, but it is a sign of strength to move on and focus on the future where new experiences, new things and new people will come into my life and I will have the space to give my love and attention to. As for the beautiful memory, they will be stored in a special place in my heart where it will go down memory lane that continues to be a beautiful history as I have chosen to store it as hapiness.
Does it seem like a love lost guy talking about poetry here? Yes it might be but this blog also carry the philosophy of facing the harsh reality post by life and still face it with fortitude. Choosing to face it boldly rather than avoiding it, choosing to end sadness in order to begin happiness. It is a blog on philosophy that highlight the power of choice, where the strong can choose to be happy and move on in life when life throws obstacles at you. It is about granting people you love the freedom to be happy and relieving them from sadness. It is the philosophy of looking at things from an optimistic angle, and choosing to let a win-win situation ensues where everyone is happy in the long run. It is the choice to believe that love is still a beautiful things and is not meant to hurt anyone but to create beautiful memories for individual to store it in memory lane. Just by the power of choice.
Let me be sentimental one last time before I end this blog. If this is the end point that I cannot carry on loving and caring for her as a capacity of a lover, hope she can find someone who can carry on to love her more than I had which at least had justified that the love had ended in favor of her happiness =). To the memory bank ~ Genting ~ Bangkok ~ Phuket and finally Hong Kong where we begin our new chapter in life as friends.
A new chapter therefore begins in my life as of today as I find new strength to move on... stronger ^^
"Happiness or sadness, it is all about choice"
~ James Tan ~
Today I left my love in Hong Kong. When the path between 2 persons have split and seperation is a better choice, it is better to bite the bullet and let your rationality control your emotion. I prefered to leave my love behind and take away my rationality back to Singapore not because I have lost faith in the love, but rather to love is to let go and let the person be happy. Although it is sad and heart wrenching yet it is a decision that is relieving and uplifting. Oxymoron you might say, but isn't love about the oxymoron between happiness and sadness? Love is bitter sweat because the sadness to end exist because of the happiness that precedes before.
No matter how hard you try to salvage it, love is not an individual affair where effort from a person is enough. Like the heart where the right side of the heart pumps the blood to the lung to receive oxygen for the body, if the left side of the heart refuse to pump the blood to the body, vice versa, the constitution will still not receive the oxygen to allow it to live and will still die. We have to face that all things will have an end that it has to face, however it is choice that differentiate someone between happiness or sadness when confronted with the end. One can take it bitterly and hang on to the relationship which results in disappointment, sadness, seperation and fear to the other party. Or one can face the harsh reality and face the end with grace, letting the love go and giving both of the person the freedom to move on and be happy. Yes it is hard to face the facts but temporal sadness is better than a prolonged one that might even result to detest.
I chose to free both of us and be happy, choosing to end the temporal love that was beautiful while it last, so that an eternal friendship that is more uplifting can begin. Love is not about hogging someone but it is about giving the best to the one you love. Care and concern does not exist only between couples, sometimes deep friendship can provide more treasured care and concern than couples. Perhaps it is not a digression formula but rather an enhanced formula where I can care for her in other ways that is not imposing and with string attached.
For a love that was once beautiful, the happy moment should remain sweet in the memory bank and it shouldn't be a burden. I wept for today, it is the tears of sadness for the lost of a beautiful love and yet again the tear is also the tear of happiness as it is the beginning of an eternal friendship. Conflicting in emotion yet clarity in rationality. A promise to leave the love behind in Hong Kong, a final time to be sentimental for the relationship.
Towards the end of the flight, the emotion calms down. There is an emptiness in my heart that I have never felt in years. This emptiness can be explained by the fact that the person in my heart has left, it is a void as her image fades. It is perhaps a good thing as now there is space for some other people to filled up the empty space. Some people move on faster than others and I am probably the slower ones as 1 year plus after the relationship has frozen than am I able to confront it and move on. At least the flip side of it shows that I was devoted to the relationship and doesn't give up easily on what I treasured. Leaving it does not mean that I do not treasure it anymore, but it is a sign of strength to move on and focus on the future where new experiences, new things and new people will come into my life and I will have the space to give my love and attention to. As for the beautiful memory, they will be stored in a special place in my heart where it will go down memory lane that continues to be a beautiful history as I have chosen to store it as hapiness.
Does it seem like a love lost guy talking about poetry here? Yes it might be but this blog also carry the philosophy of facing the harsh reality post by life and still face it with fortitude. Choosing to face it boldly rather than avoiding it, choosing to end sadness in order to begin happiness. It is a blog on philosophy that highlight the power of choice, where the strong can choose to be happy and move on in life when life throws obstacles at you. It is about granting people you love the freedom to be happy and relieving them from sadness. It is the philosophy of looking at things from an optimistic angle, and choosing to let a win-win situation ensues where everyone is happy in the long run. It is the choice to believe that love is still a beautiful things and is not meant to hurt anyone but to create beautiful memories for individual to store it in memory lane. Just by the power of choice.
Let me be sentimental one last time before I end this blog. If this is the end point that I cannot carry on loving and caring for her as a capacity of a lover, hope she can find someone who can carry on to love her more than I had which at least had justified that the love had ended in favor of her happiness =). To the memory bank ~ Genting ~ Bangkok ~ Phuket and finally Hong Kong where we begin our new chapter in life as friends.
A new chapter therefore begins in my life as of today as I find new strength to move on... stronger ^^
"Happiness or sadness, it is all about choice"
~ James Tan ~
posted by James at 8:44 PM
3 Comments:
Love is where it falls. Love is when you know you won't have it all.
Falling out of love can be very miserable however it could be very very enlightening too. As for a short while, you will see the world with new eyes. Smile James. Dont forget u said u were irritating charming and charismatic. :)
Yap my sweet and slave, the world is definitely filled with more choices now as I learn to let go. Filled with more love pouring in from all aspects and life is definitely more uplifting. There are definitely plenty of choices for a charming and charismatice guy like me who is irritating to most guys =P
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