“You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are”
As I was reading a book on inspirational quote, this quote struck me and set me thinking. I start to realize that my course of action has generally attracts the kind of people I wanted to meet. In psychology, an individual will always stick to a group of people who bear similar attributes as them, this is natural as everyone likes to be with people that has either similar personalities, viewpoints, interest, ambitions… etc etc as them. If an individual finds that certain group or person that has differing mindset as them and have no common ground that one can communicate or respect, it will be a matter of time that the individual will drift from the group or individual.
Hence you attract what you are in this sense. I would not wish to discuss in details into the various other things that you can attract due to who you are and will only focus on the people that you can attract in this blog as it may get a little to extensive if the discussion has no specific item to focus on. Apart from the huge scope if I am not going to focus on one item to discuss, the more compelling reason on why I would like to specifically touch on the people you can attract is due to the fact that the people you attract are certainly one of the most important elements that will affect your success. So the blog will center along the human element.
But what has this got to do with the blog title you may ask? Well, it is simply because the attitude you display towards various situations is the reflection of who you are. The attitude will thus determine the outcome of the things you do and will attract the people that like the attitude you display when handling situations. Your attitude will thus become a magnet that draws the people that likes who you are to you. These people that you attract will in term shape your destiny and success in life as the 6 people that you interact most frequently with that are important and close to you will shape the way you think and act.
If you have noticed, this is a cycle that continues to spiral as such
Attitude => Action => Attracts people who like your action => Becomes people that you interact with => Some become people close to you => Reinforce your attitude => New attitude => ……….. finally to your final destiny
So if you have a good attitude towards life, you will do things that reflect your good attitudes towards life which will in turn attracts people with good attitude in life which will further and enhanced your good attitude as you interact more with these people. As this positive spiral continues, you will start to face life with more enthusiasm and zest which are vital element that will aid the destiny to success. In de facto, the reversal is true and person with poor attitude will end up in a destiny of failure as they attracts and mixes with people with poor attitude.
What this means is that in order to change ones destiny, one has to change his attitude as it is the thing that determines who he will mix with and further shaped his action and destiny. And to change ones attitude, he must change his thoughts as thoughts will translates into word that leads to action which will translate into habits, habits will eventually shaped the attitude of the person. If this is getting too complicated, the summarized version is, in order to create a destiny of success, one must first have a positive thought that will create an attitude necessary for success.
Through the years, I have slowly transformed from a very pessimistic person in my earlier years to a more optimistic person as I undergo the different challenges in life. Things become smoother every time I changed a negative thought into a positive one and with more positive thought I adopt, the positive spirals start to become more exponential. The journey in my life is just beginning and there are still many positive thoughts waiting in line for me to adopt and in order to succeed, I will continue to adopt more positive thinking and enhance my attitude so that I could attract people with similar attitude that will influence and help me reach my destiny of success. To all my friends who are reading this blog, hope you can get the gist of what I am saying and start the journey of adopting more positive thoughts together with me and achieve success and happiness that we seek! =)
“Thoughts are powerful and are double edge sword, choose what to think as it shapes your destiny”
James
