No more com****n

Humans always go into the pitfall of the same mistake over and over again. They repeat it time and again and complain why does the same bad things happen to them time and again. Well, if the same thing happens to you time and again, it means you are the source of the problem. Try to run, try to hide, it follows as the problem is you.

Instead of blaming the whole world, why not change yourself to change your world. I know I always have a major problem that makes my personality bad. That is, I tend to complain too much when I am faced with a problem. In the end, the people that are close to me suffers as they have to hear me complain.

Don’t get me wrong, it is good to share your problem with your love ones and friend. Never keep a problem to yourself. But the problem with me is that my complaints tend to be a little extensive over the same issue. This in turn makes the people around me turn from being supportive to being irritated. Man is not perfect after all, even a saint who listen to too much complaint will be irritated.

I understand this flaw of mine 3 years ago and have started on a quest to change it. However since that was the beginning era of my business, I have indulged myself in improving the other aspect of my personality so as to be a better man suited for business. Learning to be positive when face with challenges is something I learnt through this period and I always face each obstacle with a good mindset that it is for the better. However I just can’t stop myself from complaining about the issue so as to let out my emotional dissatisfaction. To me though, complaining is not because I really feel negative about a thing, it is just a way to let go of my dissatisfactions within me.

Through the years, I have been working on complaining lesser and I have managed some success. And to add on, I have learnt to accompany my complaints with solution so that the problem will gradually be solved. However I think it is still not good enough as my complaints are still too extensive for people to bear. No matter how much people like or love you, when you start to complain too much, they will be irritated- bottom line.

Improvement has always been the key to why I am liking myself more and more, hence I will start undertaking the next big improvement in my life that will kill one of my major flaw; that is, I will start to be factual about issues, don’t put emotion into issues and it will eventually reduce my complaints finally to naught.

Part of the reason why I have written my blog in positive overtone and there are no complaints is because I wish to complain lesser in my life and embrace a much more positive mindset. Although I have achieved success in being positive, I still have more rooms for improvements. I will undertake the next 2 years to kill my complain virus and be a more nonchalant person towards issues. And to focus my emotion and passion in the positive things in life =]

I realized that there is a period of my time that I am really factual about things and tend to complain lesser. That is when I was making time to sort out my issue where I ironed out my dissatisfaction. However as time starts to be a rare commodity due to social and business commitment, I have reduced my date with James Tan. Which might explain why I have growing dissatisfaction too as there are too many pent up issues that are unresolved building in me. Perhaps this can be one of the course that I will start re-taking to kill the complain virus.

I wish myself success in this endeavor… nope… I will succeed in killing this complain virus!

“Com****n will be going extinct in my dictionary from now on”
~ James Tan ~